I received this gentle reminder from my mom on one of the days last week, and it was just what I needed to hear as I’m going through some big and challenging transitions in my life.

“Don’t rush who you’re becoming.”

We’re sometimes so focused on where we want to get or who we want to become, that we forget to take some pride and joy in the process of getting there.

We beat ourselves up because we are not where our friends and peers are.

We get angry and disappointed with ourselves because we haven’t achieved this or that, or for the past mistakes that can’t be undone.

We rush into making decisions like headless chicken without giving ourselves proper time for reflection, if only so we could thick all the boxes of what a happy and successful life “should” look like.

But how about, for once, we don’t rush into anything?

How about we, perhaps for the very first time, allow ourselves to be proud of the person (you) who is leading this path in the first place?

And how about we give some grace to the person (also you) who wakes up every morning and keeps on trying, putting one foot in front of the other, to become a better version of themselves?

Let's not rush.

Kindly,

Neva